How to have a conversation about a topic you’re not interested in or don’t know anything about:
Listen to what the other person has to say about the topic.
Ask a question about what they said. Asking them to clarify or explain something you don’t understand is great, but any question will do. All else fails, ask them to explain what they like about some part of the topic.
Listen to their responses and go back to step 2.
Do this until 5-15 minutes has passed, then change the subject to a topic of your interest, unless you are actually interested in learning more on this subject, in which case, go on for as long as you like.
Sometimes, they will say something like “I’m sorry to blather on about [topic].” This is an attempt at a conversational dismount. You can either say “no, it was fascinating, thanks” and then bring up your own topic, or you can say “no, it’s fascinating, please keep going” if you want to keep hearing about their topic. Note the tense difference (past -> moving on, present -> keep going).
I just thought I’d write a script for this, because someone who can’t / won’t do this came up in a Captain Awkward column, and listening about topics you have no interest in is a really useful skill to have and not often explicitly taught, particularly to boys and men.
This is really helpful advice for people with adhd/autism because we’re often not great at social skills and holding conversations
once in middle school someone asked me on a fake date and i said “as FRIENDS? ok. but as a date no” and he walked away so fucking sad and his friends were dead fucking silent stone faced which at the time was weird but. as an adult who understood the bit that is the funniest thing on earth so sorry you tried to bully the weird kid and it backfired so hard bro im sure you turned out nicer and more normal than that in the future i have confidence in you king
this is common nd phenomenon but it remains funny to me “why are you so ugly” says nt person in elementary school “im not ugly im average you’re the only person to ever call me ugly” says my oblivious “common data only” ass
“you’re uninvited to my birthday party!!” says kid currently mad at me. little did they know i don’t like birthday parties they’re weird an loud; “that’s ok :)” i say, cheerful. they start crying. i never learn why
this episode was the second pilot and so they didnt have all the details down yet, but this line is still so funny to me. “one of my ancestors” you mean your dad, spock? your father?? your father, who married your mother???
